Do we give up too easily
on committed relationships?
Everyday you hear about couples splitting for various reasons. Divorce is such a common part of a relationship that it’s almost expected after a few years. Why is it that our grandparents stayed married for over 25,50 or in some cases 75 years? Yet today’s couples are surprised to make it to 5 or 7 years.when is it right to walk away from a committed relationship?
Most of us began learning about relationships through our parents. As a chile we took mental notes of how our parents handle disagreements and personal struggles. After a certain age we can no longer blame our parents for their mistakes in marriage and/or family life. Some where along the way we are now fully responsible for our actions,choices and circumstance.
Being in a committed relationship takes a lot of work patience and understanding. There will be disagreements, conflicts and various challenges. None of which is a reason to walk away. Each argument is an opportunity to learn more about your mate and yourself. It’s a great opportunity to grow and strengthen your relationship. It’s also a chance to create a stronger bond. Communication is such a powerful tool in any relationship and learning how to express yourself in a healthy way can turn any negative situation into a positive one, where both can grow from the experience.
We have so many layers to our personality,yet we are often surprised when we discover something new about our mate. If we were all one dimensional than this would all be very simple and boring. Thank God we are not, and this is what makes relationships so captivating.
We are all unique. Learning to compromise and accept each others difference is vital to the longevity of any relationship. Instead of trying to change each other accept each other as the unique beings we are. It could be challenging at first and takes practice and patience,but the rewards are great. They may not always reciprocate which is unfortunate, however you will learn a lot about yourself and people as a whole.
The next time you and your mate have reached a point where separation seems like a solution ask yourself this question. If you were to see them in a new relationship will you be upset or at peace. If you have children involved can you look your grown child in the eyes and tell them honestly that you did all that you could to save that relationship and that in the end we knew that separation was the best choice for your well being.
The best relationships started on a healthy foundation of mutual respect. Even though it can be lost at times. Respect can be found again.
Until next time God bless and live well.